Let’s be real: no relationship is perfect. Although couples may appear to have it all together when sharing things on social media, or when having a night out with friends, you never know what can be going on behind closed doors. As much as we would like to say that everything is always smooth sailing, it is normal for this not to be the case. 

No matter what, at the end of the day we do not want to be in a relationship that is toxic and adds no additional satisfaction to our lives. Besides, that is the importance of having a significant other – you are able to devote yourself mentally, physically, emotionally, and vulnerably to someone else. It’s that person you can always count on to be there for you whenever you need; that person you are not afraid to be yourself around. 

With that being said, here are a few things that I find important to sustain a healthy relationship, which can really be applied to any type of relationship when you think about it. While I know some things may not work for everyone, I hope they can at least make things become a little clearer.

1. Clear Communication

You need to be able to communicate openly with your partner and say what’s on your mind. If you don’t let each other know what’s going on or how you’re feeling, then you cannot effectively work together, address any problems there may be, or have something as simple as a daily conversation. We cannot just assume things!

2. Attentive Listening

As much as you enjoy your partner giving you attention, it is important that you do the same and reciprocate this action. If you do not give your full attention to something, then it may come across that you don’t care or something more important to you is on your mind.

3. Set Boundaries

This goes along with clear communication; people must establish what they are okay and not okay with. While we don’t want to be controlling or over demanding, we cannot allow things to occur that do not make us feel comfortable. Letting your partner know these things will save you from future problems, and if it is not something your partner is willing to condone, then this would probably be a red flag you should acknowledge.

4. Give Space When Needed

While attention and affection is expected with most relationships, it’s crucial you don’t overwhelm your partner. I won’t lie, I love my alone time. Does that mean everyone does? No, but this is why setting boundaries can also help if this is something you want.

5. Reassurance

It’s good to let your partner know you are completely invested in them. You don’t want them to have to question your commitment and vice versa. This doesn’t have to be anything extravagant, but maybe planning an activity they like to do or cooking their favorite meal here and there can be an indirect way to let them know you really care about them.

6. Figure Out Your Love Language & Your Partners

Everyone has a different way of expressing and receiving love. It’s important to figure out what it is that truly makes you happy, as well as your partner, in order to have a healthy relationship.

7. Respect Their Community of Friends and Family

Just like everyone has different love languages, everyone also has a multitude of different preferences. That is why it is key to appreciate and value what your partner loves!

8. Have Difficult Conversations

I know this kind of thing sucks, but it really is something that needs to be done. It doesn’t necessarily have to be about a problem you may have, it can even regard future plans that need to be looked at. Being impeccable with your word and saying what’s on your mind is ideal in these scenarios. 

9. Put Yourself In Their Shoes

While it is easy to be stubborn and not look at things from your partner’s perspective, it is absolutely necessary so you know where they are coming from in certain instances. It is so easy to get mad at situations and make a whole deal out of nothing if you do not try to understand their point of view.

10. Don’t Give Up!

I know this sounds corny, but every relationship is work whether you choose to believe it or not. Keeping these few things in mind when you’re with your significant other will hopefully help you to feel like things are a little easier.